Of Being Abdullah's offspring

While watching an episode of Primadona on Astro (the topic about foster children), my mom suddenly recall meeting a clerk back in my primary school day. Apparently she had gone to the school's office that day to settle about her child that somehow been misunderstood as a foster child just because his/her father name is Abdullah. She had to explain to the teacher and somehow ask the teacher to stop the misunderstanding that had spread in her child's class about his/her status.

My mom seems to think that is ridiculous. My mom said to me,

 ' I said to her, just show your nikah certificate,right? And Ayu, your father also Abdullah. You never had the same problem right?'



To my mother astonishment I said,

"Well yes, I do face the same problem back in school. Though nobody ever dare to said it to my face because they are afraid of me, but there are always 'the look'. And because nobody really saw my father back in primary school, somehow i can sense people treat me differently (in a bad way) by teacher and schoolmate".

My mom was shocked to hear this.

'You never said anything to me about school back then. I thought everything was okay'

'I guess I did. It's because maybe I always think it's already hard enough for you, with work and all. So I never really tell',

Yup, back in my day, foster children, and also illegitimate children were put with 'bin or binti Abdullah' as a way to make it proper for their name in certificate. I don't think they do it now, because somehow i do come across children with no father name. i'm not sure myself.

it's one of my valuable experience as a child. it somehow shape me into a person who never judge other just because of whose one's father is or not. Because i know the pain.

I have a father. I'm a legitimate child, born out of blessing from Allah s.wt for my parents beautiful reunion in marriage.
Yet i still experience the pain of being wrongly judge by others. That still somehow effect my self confidence and how i am today as an adult
Can you image how much more pain and scar for those real illegitimate children?
So think.
Think before you start judge and give 'looks' to  innocent kids.

And think, before you started making one.

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